Trying new things

Tuesday 2 June 2015

Women often face challenges, and try new things. After all, if you always do what you always did- you always get what you always got! If we have any hope of success, we must get out there and push ourselves.Chloe M  March 2015

Quite recently I found myself unemployed (again), so with the rat race to the next dead end job becoming increasingly boring, I decided I’d try a college course, with the intention of improving prospects and hopefully getting a feel of what I want for the future, career wise. I hadn’t been in classroom education since 2009, so the thought of returning to that environment was pretty daunting, but I saw it as an investment (that’s also how I justified the price tag).

The course was a short introductory course in Counselling skills. As the course went on, I found I learnt some valuable skills that are transferrable in everyday life, such as listening, conversational, and organisational skills. But more importantly, I was reminded of some sobering facts that are easily forgotten about in the hustle and bustle of daily life, like my own values, the really important ones, not just money, nice clothes and fancy things. One exercise, that I thought was brilliantly empowering, saw me go through my whole life and take a look at how my experiences, and the things I have been taught, have shaped my values, opinions, and made me the person I am. By the end of the course I had a much better understanding of who I am, what I want, and how I’m going to get it.

It was around this time it occurred to me one of the biggest challenges we face as women is possibly getting to know ourselves and finding out who we are, what we want, and what makes us happy, especially in a society that actively supresses and seeks to tell us who we are! We are given limited options when it comes to our futures anyway, but in a lot of situations, if you don’t meet certain requirements, you can forget about having a future at all; I don’t let this deter me anymore, I don’t give up at the first hurdle, and I will not conform to what anybody expects of me, I will live my life according to what makes me happy, because in the end, it’s all that matters.

Positive changes come around when you put in the effort to get there, the power of the human mind is massively underestimated in that just looking at things from a different or multiple perspectives, or changing the way you think can make such a noticeable difference in your motivation levels, in your attitude, and your general mood. The journey of finding yourself may well be emotional, and hard work, but it will always be worth it. I’d actively encourage any woman to get to know themselves, to get out there trying new things, and challenge themselves, it’s the only way to learn and grow.